Over the last few days, we have covered several aspects of our inner monologue that chatters in the background day in, day out. Have you ever taken notice of the language it uses? How do you treat yourself in the context of self-talk? Are you kind? Critical? Comforting? Demanding? Understanding? Abrupt?
Complete the questionnaire below to get an indication of how self-compassionate you are. If you score low on the questionnaire, or feel this is an area you can improve in, don’t be discouraged. Self-compassion is a learned skill.
Try these self-compassion exercises:
Chuck a notebook and pen in your bag, or start a note on your smartphone, and over the next 24 hours, try to pay close attention to your inner chatter. When you notice a phrase you use, jot it down.
Then have a look back at at your list and notice the trend. Does it surprise you, or was it what you expected? You may need to repeat this for a few days – it can be hard to get into the habit of paying attention to these thoughts that usually get away without being consciously noticed!